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Monday, October 14, 2013

How I Potty Trained My Kids. Or Not.

Ah, potty training. It’s the best and worst part of parenting. You so desperately want to be done with diapers, but it can be so frustrating getting your child to understand that wish! Now I know some people have the luck where their child potty trains themselves below the age of 2 and it’s all smooth sailing with no yelling or crying on the part of either of you. I was not that person.

Simon is my 3rd child and although I’d successfully potty trained two older kids, I still had no idea how to potty train him! I guess I’d blocked out how I did it with the other 2. Here’s what I remember. Gabbie was very hard to potty train. I don’t know what I tried though – did I put her in underwear or pull ups? Did I just hope for the best without knowing what I was doing? What I remember is her hiding behind a large toy and pooping in her pants after we’d tried sitting on the potty and she had done nothing. I remember calling my friend in frustration and begging her to help me. I remember being at a Moms’ Club event and Gabbie being in a bathing suit and her finally pooping on the potty at the host’s house. Gabbie was 3 years and 4 months by the time she was completely potty trained. She turned 3 in April and had to be trained by September for preschool – and she was. Mostly.

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Ha.

Now I know they say girls are easier, but Gabbie was so difficult that I didn’t know what would happen when it came time to train Zachary. Sure enough, he was harder. His birthday is in June and he was not potty trained by the time he started 3 year old preschool. In December, when he was 3.5, we switched him to underwear and he was able to pick up pee training quickly. Pooping was another story. For awhile, Zachary had announced when he needed to go poop, but refused to do so in the potty. And I didn’t know how to make him! So I continued to hand over a diaper whenever he had to go. He desperately wanted Toy Story 3 on DVD and when I placed it in the bathroom, telling him he could have it when he pooped in the potty, he said he didn’t want it anymore. Finally, when we were in Israel and Zachary was 3 years and 10 months old, Dave got him to poop on the potty. Once he saw he could do it, he wasn’t scared anymore and he was fully potty trained. (This accomplishment also called for a celebration party with his cousins and chocolate cake!)

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Zachary in Israel at the time of becoming fully potty trained.

Simon is currently 3 years and 2 months old. Two weeks ago, it was raining on a Saturday and we decided it would be a good time to stay home and work on potty training him. Dave seriously did the whole thing and I am so grateful. He is much calmer than I am and dealt with the accidents that Simon had by having him not wear pants at all. This resulted in us seeing that Simon actually could hold in his pee. We brought him to the potty often and he was successful. At first, he received a plane toy (like Matchbox Cars but planes) each time he peed. He also would eat an M&M. He eventually earned all of his planes, but he continued to cheer for himself and eat M&M’s each time he used the potty. He had one accident the first day he went to school in underwear, but since then he has stayed dry. He even says when he needs to use the bathroom. Poop training is much harder, since it doesn’t happen as often! Simon actually has pooped in the potty, unlike Zachary at the same age, but he has also had many poop accidents. We are hoping he will catch on soon!

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Simon the big boy.

Some of the issues that we have with Simon are that since he stands to pee, when he sits to poop he inevitably pees all over the room. He also misses the potty sometimes when he’s standing! He has woken up a few times in the night to use the bathroom, and since he needs help, that means we wake up too. Other than that, I’m quite thrilled by how this is going so far! He is at a great age to feel proud of himself, to tell everyone that he’s not a baby anymore, and to learn that using the potty is lots of fun! And by the way, potty training Simon was on my list of 35 Things To Do This Year – and I’m counting it as done.

Was potty training your kids easy or hard for you? Wait, if it was easy, don’t tell me!


Here is someone who I’m sure had an easy time potty training her toddler Reagan.

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23 comments:

Holly Higgins said...

We're in the middle of potty training E and I am definitely the one who gets frustrated. He also won't tell me when he has to go (yet he'll tell A) so he always has accidents with me. Maybe that's why I get so frustrated!

Dara said...

yup, sounds familiar! he is younger than Simon though!

Holly Higgins said...

The daycare is the one who is really pushing potty training. I would like him trained by the time he starts preschool next fall though!

Janine Huldie said...

Emma was truly hard to potty train. When I first started at a little over 2 years old, she would stiffen her body and arch her back if I tried to have her poop on the potty. She was using the potty to pee though, but still it took us over six months over trying before we finally just took the pull-ups away during the day cold turkey. She had one accident the first day and then was pretty much trained and even decided she no longer wanted to wear a pull-up to bed and has been trained since then day and night. But those 6 months prior made me want to never have to do it again. I will say that Lily was so much easier and was the child that did literally train herself. I thin, because she does idolize Emma and wants to be just like her, she wanted to be potty trained and not wear diapers anymore. But ask me if I ever had another if I would ever have it that easy again and I would tell you that I sincerely doubt it!

Sara said...

Collin was well over 3 before he was potty trained and we started on and off at 2. He just wasn't ready nor was I. It was weird because Collin was poop potty trained first. He hated poopie diapers so he would easily do that on the potty, it took awhile but he mastered it. Now we just need to work on not having accidents at night. It happens 1-2 times a week and it drives me nuts from a laundry stand point.

tamarsb said...

My sister is trying to train Noam now - some days he is gung ho and other's he isn't! She thinks it's the pooping that is holding him back all around! Hope Simon keeps progressing!

Breenah said...

I am so not looking forward to potty training. We bought Quinn an Elmo seat that goes on top of the toilet a few months ago just to have it whenever she was ready. She's sat on it a few times and likes "helping" us go potty, but she's still not quite there yet. She just turned two at the end of August so I'm not worried about it.

Dara said...

too bad the first was hard, but it's good that the next was easier!

Dara said...

Simon is still wearing diapers to bed, but wakes up dry sometimes. we're not ready to deal with bed wetting accidents!

Dara said...

he'll get there! I feel for your sister though, it is hard!

Dara said...

she'll get there too! my other kids used the little potty that is on the floor, but Simon went straight to the big potty! it's funny how kids are different.

Alex said...

Potty training was such a pain for us!! I honestly stopped trying for a while, and that's when V did it. I'm not going to try too hard this time around..

Dara said...

maybe your younger one will copy your older one like Janine said happened to her!

Cristyl @ CHill Thoughts said...

We're in the thick of potty training; but not because I thought it was time...because Buddy decided it was time. I was fully prepared to wait until his 3rd birthday to even start! He does great some days and other days I beg him to just keep his diaper on so I don't have to clean anymore accidents!

Desiree @ Macke Monologues said...

We're in the beginning talks of potty training. M seems to know when he's peeing... In the bath tub... I'm so nervous about the whole thing!

Dara said...

good luck!

Dara said...

don't be nervous. if I learned anything from my experience with Gabbie it is to relax! (easier said than done!)

Tamara Bowman said...

Scarlet wasn't so hard - she was two years and two months when she was potty trained. I was just getting pregnant with Des at the time and the first trimester was so hard because I had to keep following her to the bathroom. All I wanted to do was sleep and wallow in my misery!
I'm not as confident about Des. Maybe he'll surprise me. (but probably not)

Kristin Williams said...

It was easy. With all 6 I left their diapers off and they went around bare bottomed at home. If they started to do anything, I'd scoop them up and rush to the potty, which was strategically placed, until they got it. When out, we made frequent trips to check. They were all trained around 2. I tried the same method with my oldest granddaughter she did not like it and did more like your daughter, found her behind a chair doing her business. I turned it all over to their mother's after that, fearing that I'd permanently ruined her. All of them are fine now - at ages 10 through 15 LOL.

Dara said...

I am honestly happy I won't have to do it again. this will be our first time with no kids in diapers in 8.5 years.

Dara said...

I can't imagine being on top of the kids like that, especially before they're ready, but like you said, they catch on quickly! I'm glad all are fine, that is funny that you feared you ruined your granddaughter! hey, at least you tried!

Leslie said...

I can't decide how I feel about potty training. V has a potty seat that goes on the toilet as she wanted nothing to do with the potty chair. She sits on it before bath time right now and though she hasn't gone on it, she likes the ritual. I do like the idea of starting on a weekend. That's a really good idea. My mom had a daycare for years and she HATES pull-ups. She swears they are too much like diapers. She said they are great to use if you need the extra protection but training in real underwear is much better.

Dara said...

we just used pull ups for the ease of taking them up and down - like right now Simon sleeps in them, but if he wakes up to go potty it's not like taking off and putting on a diaper. however, he won't pee in the bed if he does go! but otherwise they aren't good to use for potty training in general!