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December In Review

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

It’s been another great month here in our house, with the conclusion of Hanukkah, the end of school for the 2nd quarter, and winter break. Here are some of the highlights:

Family Activities:

  • The kids went to a gymnastics birthday party.

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  • We celebrated Hanukkah.
  • Gabbie was named Mensch of the Week.
  • I took part in some recent school events.
  • We enjoyed the first snow.
  • The kids went to Winter Camp.

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  • The kids went to St. Louis.


  • I started a wedding series on the blog and wrote about my Pinterest Wedding Do-Over.
  • I started thinking about making a Fish Extender for our cruise.
  • I shared the winter gifts I made for the kids’ teachers and our winter entry d├ęcor.
  • I started watching Homeland. Next up – The Good Wife.

We are certainly looking forward to January and to the rest of 2014. Happy New Year everyone!

It’s Okay #12

Nugget On A Budget

It’s okay…

…that I prefer to stay at home. So when Dave took the kids on a trip, I stayed home.

…that when Zachary put his clothes in his suitcase, he chose a pair of shorts and a t-shirt. I guess he thought he was going to Florida! Good thing I checked.

….that I didn’t get much done while they were gone. But I did go shopping!

…that as April pointed out, you can’t cheat on your favorite TV show if it’s on a break.


…that sometimes I laugh at what people say on Tumblr. Other times it makes me sad. I may be obsessed, but I’m not that obsessed.

…that I’m a little bit stressed about preparing for our cruise. And now that I’ve looked at the kids’ summer clothes I’ve realized they have outgrown most of their things!

…that I’m not really sure what the kids and I are doing today.

…that I’m very glad Zachary finally lost the tooth he fell on when he was two – he had a root canal and it was supposed to fall out a long time ago!

…that I have no “Year in Review” post to share. I kind of did that for my birthday. But I’ll be back later with a Month in Review post!

December Instagram Wrap Up

Monday, December 30, 2013

Time for another Instagram wrap up post. If you follow me on Instagram you’ve probably seen these pictures already, but I like to post them here because they are the quick snap shots of my life! (If you don’t follow me on Instagram, you can, here.)

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1. Simon making a Hanukkah picture. 2. Simon coloring. 3. Dreidels. 4. Our countdown chalkboard.

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1. Simon with his new Bingo game. 2. Simon waiting outside for Gabbie and Zachary. 3. Gabbie’s new robe. 4. Dinner.

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1. One of my favorite Scandal scenes. 2. Simon waiting for his ride to school. 3. Drinking something other than Starbucks. 4. Me and Simon.

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1. Sunset. 2. Simon and the Neverland Pirates…he wore this hat everywhere for a few days, but really it’s for Pirate Night on the Cruise! 3. Gabbie at dance. 4. Zachary building.

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1. & 2. Zachary at Chuck E. Cheese. 3. & 4. Our penguin friends at the zoo.

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1. & 2. More penguins. 3. The Plaza. 4. Lights at someone's house.

Watching the Downton Abbey Christmas Special…I wasn’t that impressed. Did anyone else watch it??

Is God Real Or Pretend?


I received this book from TLC Book Tours for my review. “Is God Real or Pretend? is the story of young Franklin's engaging and enlightening journey to answer this age old question. Franklin's grandmother, Dr. Wendy Knowles, a professor of astronomy, first provides Franklin with the basic scientific means of determining what is real and what is not and how science distinguishes questions it can answer and those it cannot. Franklin’s mission of discovery continues as he meets a kindly professor of Greek mythology who offers a historical-cultural prospective on the question. Here Franklin meets the Greek Gods and their timeless myths. Once armed with these new ideas, Franklin meets with representatives of the world's five major religions: Hindu, Buddhist, Jewish, Christian and Muslim. These knowledgeable teachers from each of the great religions charm and delight as they shine positive lights on their religion. Franklin asks probing questions, while learning to appreciate and admire the diversity and beauty of these religious beliefs and traditions. Ultimately, Franklin's dynamic school report on the immensity and magnificence of the universe becomes the backdrop for thinking critically about religion and questions about God. This book is designed for anyone and everyone, young and old, religious or not, who wants to know more about these five great religions. It’s the most unforgettable and exciting journey, one every thoughtful child (and the curious adults in their life) will enjoy.”

Is there really a God? Personally, I have asked myself this question more than a few times. On the other hand, my children have not. They have been taught without question in the existence of God, who created the world, who spoke to our forefathers, and who we pray to daily. Even so, Gabbie (age 8.5) was very interested in reading this book, in order to learn about what other people believe.

The book begins with what I see as a major issue – the existence of Santa Claus. Like most everyone in America, the book assumes the reader celebrates Christmas. Yet, on the very first page, Franklin realizes that Santa Claus, like the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy, is not real. If you want your children to believe in any of these things, you do not want to read them this book. Poor Franklin. With his believe shattered, he starts to question. If Santa Claus isn’t real, is God real?

Franklin begins a journey to learn about various world religions and what they believe about God. Lucky for him, he has a grandmother willing to teach him all about science, and how it is hard to prove something you cannot see or touch. To her, God cannot be real because feelings do not prove the existence of something. However, she is willing to introduce Franklin to a professor of Greek civilizations who starts out Franklin’s research with information about the Greek gods. In this section, Franklin learns that the Greeks believed in many gods, just as people today believe in other gods.

Next, Franklin learns about the Hindu religion, because they also believe in many gods. Franklin learns that “most Hindus believe God is the universe…Brahman, which is what Hindus call God, is everywhere…God is in your and me. In the stars. In the planets. In the oceans, mountains, and forests. God is in all living creatures.” This doesn’t sound all that different to my own beliefs! However, he goes on to learn that Hindus believe in three manifestations of God –  which are represented by statues – Brahma the creator, Vishnu the preserver, and Shiva the destroyer. He also learns that while he doesn’t think the statues look like real gods, the “Hindu religion is much bigger than a single statue.”

From there, Franklin learns about Buddhism. He quickly learns that Buddhists think it is more important to live in the best way possible than to worry about questioning God. He goes on to learn about the rules of the Eightfold Path, which is a list of rules Buddha made to help people end suffering by becoming better people. Having learned about the Buddhist religion, but not whether or not God is pretend, Franklin moves on to learn about Judaism.

Being the religion that I know the most about, the way the chapter on Judaism is written gives me an idea on how much is correct in the other chapters. What stood out to me is that the rabbi that Franklin speaks with tells him “almost half of all Jews in America do not believe in God.” Shocking. Franklin questions whether a person can still be Jewish without believing in God, and the rabbi answers “yes they can…Jewish people feel that following God’s commandments and rules are what’s important.” This poses a problem for me – if they don’t believe in God, why would they follow God’s commandments? If God isn’t real, doesn’t that make the commandments and rules pointless? This question does not bother Franklin or the rabbi though, and they go on to discuss the history of Judaism, the believe that Jesus existed historically but was not the son of God, and the story of Moses and the ten plagues. Franklin feels that the story of Moses appears to be a pretend story. The rabbi appears to agree with him, saying there is no evidence that the Jews were even in Egypt at the time, but that it doesn’t matter because the story is a good one. Franklin also discusses praying with the rabbi, who notes that “even if there is no God, or if God is not listening to your prayers, the act of praying helps people,” the kosher laws, which the rabbi says protect animals from inhumane treatment, that Jews do not believe in reincarnation, and that history, especially the Holocaust, is very important in Judaism today. They end their conversation by noting that “we must understand our history, what terrible things happened in the past, in order to make sure it never happens again. We must teach our children to respect all the religions of the world.”

Next, Franklin discusses Christianity. He raises the question of whether heaven is real or pretend. Once again, his grandmother brings up science and how nothing exists outside of the universe. His mom, on the other hand, believes that God created the universe, so he must exist outside of nature. Finally, Franklin learns about Islam. Having already learned about the other world religions, he compares and contrasts Islam with the others he has already learned about, realizing that all of the religions provide rules to live by. The difference he sees with Islam is that their rules mostly command them to worship Allah. He wonders why God wants people to worship him, as Franklin sees this concept in Judaism and Christianity as well. The last thing Franklin learns is that people need faith to believe in God. Faith means to believe in something “without logical proof, science, or evidence.”

Franklin goes on to present a report to his school class about the solar system. His class discussion veers off into discussion on whether God created the universe, which leads his grandmother to introduce the big bang theory. This of course is meant to show that the universe could exist without God. The book concludes with Franklin acknowledging that he liked things about each of the religions he learned about, but most of all he likes that science can answer his questions. He seems to conclude that God is mysterious, but science is not.

For me, as a religious person, this is not the conclusion I would want my children to reach. I have no problem with them learning about other religions, and what Franklin learns about religions is certainly interesting. However, seeing that the information about Judaism seems to be skewed towards those who don’t believe in God, I’m not sure I can accept the information on the other religions at face value either.


Now, let’s look at Gabbie’s thoughts on the book. I asked her a few questions and here are her exact answers:

Did you like this book? Yeah.

What did you like about it? It was interesting.

What was it about? Different religions. The boy in the book likes science. His name is Franklin. He does believe that the Earth may not be made by God, but he likes learning about other religions. He thought it was confusing to understand, it is hard to understand that God made the world.

Do you think God made the world? Of course I do. Because that’s what our religion believes.

Did you learn anything? I learned about other religions.

Is God real or pretend? Depends on what religion.

Can you give me examples? Hindu, Buddhist, Jewish, Christian and Muslim all believe in God.

Is there anything you didn’t like about the book? No.

Do you think other people should read this book? Yeah, my age and older, because you need to understand it. You have to be interested in history and stuff.

It is beautiful to me that even after reading this book Gabbie still has a strong belief that God made the world. If your child has strong faith, this book may be worth reading as a learning tool about other beliefs. However, if you believe in God and your child is questioning, I would not recommend this book as an answer.

Scandal Sunday #6–New Years Resolutions

Sunday, December 29, 2013


This week, in honor of the New Year starting, I thought I would write New Years’ Resolutions for the Scandal characters. I have been trying to think of what they as characters might resolve to do in the coming year – but I also have to put in my thoughts on what I personally want them to do! This post will contain spoilers!

Abby: Find a way to work with both David and Olivia Pope and Associates without hurting one for the other.
My thoughts: Abby should stop using David for information.

Cyrus: Keep Fitz in the White House. Keep James at home. Cover up what Sally did.
My thoughts: Cyrus should resolve to treat James better and to stop putting his career first.

David: Stage a career comeback.
My thoughts: David should stop letting Abby use him and he should help her and the others because he wants to.

Fitz: Win the next election. Be with Olivia.
My thoughts: Fitz should go through with the plan that Olivia came up with in which he divorces Mellie and eventually marries Olivia. He should also do something to prove that he’s a great president.

Harrison: Play an actual role in a case.
My thoughts: Harrison should tell us his back story!

Huck: Keep Quinn out of Olivia Pope and Associates. Protect Olivia.
My thoughts: Huck should stop torturing people. He should apologize to Quinn.

Jake: Keep America safe from Rowan.
My thoughts: Jake is now Fitz’s lap dog. And he needs to stay away from Olivia.

Mellie: Keep Fitz in the White House. Keep herself in the White House.
My thoughts: Mellie needs to leave Fitz and find someone else.

Olivia: Find her mother and bring her to justice.
My thoughts: Olivia needs to return to working at the White House. At the very least she needs to become the campaign director for Fitz. And she needs to stop running from him!

Quinn: Figure out where to go from here.
My thoughts: Quinn needs to talk to Olivia, not to Huck.

As for me, I’ve been cheating on Scandal with Homeland. No, I’m not going to start a series about Homeland on my blog, but I am definitely a fan so far!